There’s a gray area between “coach says get outta here” and both sides understanding that parting ways is the right move. This can be communicated myriad ways. Coach is HONEST, always, it’s the word you hear over and over again from his players. That honesty might sound like “hey Jeremy, you’re not playing PG next year.”
Or it might be “Isaiah, we can’t match a $3MM offer from NC State.” Or “Caleb, I’m going to recruit additional ball handlers for next year to help our team out, but you are always going to have a shot at starting.”
I think it’s perfectly reasonable to be a player and feel like it’s not your choice to leave, but the constellation of other factors are forcing your hand. No one is saying they’re a victim of a cutthroat coach. Your line of questioning is a little uncharitable, imo.