Didn't want to take another thread further down a bizarre tangent so I am saying it here:
1. Totally with you, Aimo, regarding coed and not giving a rat's heinie!
2. I find mispronouncing someone's name way more offensive than another poster did. But also agree that if the owner of the name doesn't care then let it go but say it right yourself.
3. I always said it didn't bother me if someone misspelled my name since it isn't unusual to have it misspelled. I did discover that it is only true with my last name. Someone was consistently spelling my first name wrong and it annoyed the heck out of me. I didn't call her on it - just kept spelling it correctly in any correspondence with her.
I thought “unclench” was a micro-aggression against the incontinent tbh.
But I only got involved in that whole thing because I thought the shade thrown at the poster using the term “co-ed” was unnecessarily disrespectful. Which makes the whole subsequent discussion of “disrespecting” language even more ironic for me.
But I like all the posters involved, and I respect that they have different views. I am glad to see that you and Aimo agree with me, and that I am not being a total cretin.
Half-cretin is my goal.
Caught up on the other thread. It took a turn when that person said they have no intention of using the preferred vernacular. It was absolutely not a big deal until that person made it a big deal. My 21 year old daughter would think: "Ok boomer" if she heard coed used. Wouldn't say anything and would forget about it. But that micro-aggression loses the qualifier "micro" when you can't just say that you didn't know and stop using it. His response was the most mwg statement ever. But it's why they are mwgs.
Okay, this mid Gen X'er is happy to br over here on the OT board.
Are Gen Xers the ones who don't do anything but complain a lot, or am I confusing them with another Gen?
Did he? Or did he go with the "I'm sorry you got your little feelings hurt" apology? I'm not a female but I am mediocre. I don't get to decide what is and isn't offensive. It never would have occurred to me that that word was offensive. What annoys me is someone just as mediocre as I am doubling down on something that other people might find offensive. If you want to make the point that we find too many things offensive. That's absolutely fine. People get to feel how they want to. People get to say what they want to. People get to find offense or not. I have a deep vein of don't care about this stuff honestly. But it's so easy to take responsibility and that dude didn't. That annoyed me.
I mean, I wasn't meaning to call out the term "coed" in any way, but more to have a discussion about if claiming ignorance gets someone off the hook for using an offensive term.
Sure, as a kid maybe you use words that you don't understand and that's how you learn. I don't think that most adults in most situations can say "well, I didn't know people got offended by THAT word" and skate.
Additionally, I've always held that I don't get to determine what other people should or should not be offended by. Let folks decide for themselves and tell us, we can all try to act respectfully. It literally doesn't cost anyone anything.
I look at it like when you meet someone and they say "hey, I'm Richard but call me Rick." Okay. Cool. I'm not going to spend my time and energy trying to convince you to go by Richard, I'll just do my best to call you Rick.
I didn't mean it to transform into a discussion of sensitivity and snowflakes and PCism, but here we are.
Signing Day tomorrow.
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What's funny is it so easy to lie in that situation. You can pretend that you care or you can even just shut up about it. It's defending it that annoys the piss out of me. I literally don't care if he feels bad or not. I don't care who finds it offensive or not. None of that matters in this scenario. It was purely his response that annoyed me. I've misgendered people, I have used the incorrect nomenclature about different races and ethnic groups. I've done all of those things. I try to be better than that but I sure as hell don't double down on it. That I don't do.