Originally Posted by
ice-9
Could I see that confrontation with Coach K and the parents happening? Yeah, I can.
I went through a performance review with an employee six months ago where the feedback was "you did OK, but not enough to get a promotion." Halfway through getting to why, she started crying, that it's not fair, she did what was asked (just not that well LOL), wailing about how she wants to get married and put a down payment for a house but can't without a pay raise, how could I do this to her, she was promised a promotion, etc. etc.
(Note this is a 30 year old Ivy League graduate.)
In my view of course I made no such promise. All possibilities are IF statements. "You can get X promotion IF..." And we simply disagree on whether she met the if condition. She did not.
Fast forward another 3 months, and in the next review I told her she was doing well enough to get a 5% raise but not more. Cue more wailing about how that's not enough, how she's suffering with taking a pay cut at my company, etc. etc...
Sorry, no matter how much you cry and plead -- she didn't kneel on the floor but spiritually it was close to it -- I'm not giving her a raise she didn't earn, while others have to earn theirs.
She tendered her resignation the next day and I'm pretty sure she's been complaining to people that she feels wronged, lied to and taken advantage of.
What're you gonna do? I'm sticking with what I believe in and if there's negative PR fallout, it is what it is.
So I can relate to Coach K here.