Metastatic breast cancer

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11-18-2019, 06:30 PM
Brian913

Metastatic breast cancer

Today we learned that my wife, who survived breast cancer in 2004 has multiple metastatic breast cancer bone lesions. It doesn't look good.
If anyone has gone through this, could we talk?
11-18-2019, 06:50 PM
OldPhiKap

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Originally Posted by Brian913

Today we learned that my wife, who survived breast cancer in 2004 has multiple metastatic breast cancer bone lesions. It doesn't look good.
If anyone has gone through this, could we talk?

Sincere prayers for you, her, and your families. I wish I had some words of wisdom on the subject.
11-18-2019, 07:53 PM
devildeac

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Originally Posted by Brian913

Today we learned that my wife, who survived breast cancer in 2004 has multiple metastatic breast cancer bone lesions. It doesn't look good.
If anyone has gone through this, could we talk?

Check your PM a bit later this evening. Trying to compose some thoughts now.
11-18-2019, 08:10 PM
Indoor66

My sincere sympathies to you and your family. It is the most insidious of all diseases. My prayers are with you.
11-19-2019, 08:30 PM
weezie

Catching up here after a few days off and gosh I am so sorry to read this. I hope you know you aren't alone and that there are many who are sending you and your wife their best thoughts for courage and strength.
11-19-2019, 08:48 PM
cato

I am so sorry to hear about your news. I do not have anything better than my prayers to add, but your wife, you and your family are in mine.
11-20-2019, 02:56 PM
Brian913

Thanks everyone. It's a real trying time, but we expect to have a consult at Sloan Kettering right after Thanksgiving. We know it's going to be a long haul dealing with this, but we'll remain optimistic.
This was just completely unexpected. Ellen had breast cancer surgery in 2004, followed by chemo and radiation. Regular check ups and mammograms since then.
What really hurts is the nobody ever told us that at least a third (probably more) of women treated for breast cancer will wind up with metastatic breast cancer in other parts of the body years or decades later. That's one reason why the 5 year survival rate stats are a joke.
Our main concern is for our daughter, who some of you may remember was severely injured in an accident while attending Homecoming in 2006. She's finally been able to truly move on independently from us and she gets hit with this. She's living in Durham and looking for a job if anyone is hiring :).
It's going to be real tough on her being an only child. I remember myself in my 20s when my mom was diagnosed with multiple myeloma just after my father died.
11-20-2019, 03:33 PM
fuse

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Originally Posted by Brian913

Thanks everyone. It's a real trying time, but we expect to have a consult at Sloan Kettering right after Thanksgiving. We know it's going to be a long haul dealing with this, but we'll remain optimistic.
This was just completely unexpected. Ellen had breast cancer surgery in 2004, followed by chemo and radiation. Regular check ups and mammograms since then.
What really hurts is the nobody ever told us that at least a third (probably more) of women treated for breast cancer will wind up with metastatic breast cancer in other parts of the body years or decades later. That's one reason why the 5 year survival rate stats are a joke.
Our main concern is for our daughter, who some of you may remember was severely injured in an accident while attending Homecoming in 2006. She's finally been able to truly move on independently from us and she gets hit with this. She's living in Durham and looking for a job if anyone is hiring :).
It's going to be real tough on her being an only child. I remember myself in my 20s when my mom was diagnosed with multiple myeloma just after my father died.

What is your daughter looking to do?
11-20-2019, 03:46 PM
wavedukefan70s

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Originally Posted by Brian913

Today we learned that my wife, who survived breast cancer in 2004 has multiple metastatic breast cancer bone lesions. It doesn't look good.
If anyone has gone through this, could we talk?

My grandma finaly got gotten.keep her head and yours in the fight.remember medicine is a science and is not always right.they gave my grandma two months max.well 7 years later they gave her 6 months or so .5 years after that the passed.you have to not give up
11-20-2019, 05:35 PM
Jeffrey

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Originally Posted by Brian913

Thanks everyone. It's a real trying time, but we expect to have a consult at Sloan Kettering right after Thanksgiving. We know it's going to be a long haul dealing with this, but we'll remain optimistic.
This was just completely unexpected. Ellen had breast cancer surgery in 2004, followed by chemo and radiation. Regular check ups and mammograms since then.
What really hurts is the nobody ever told us that at least a third (probably more) of women treated for breast cancer will wind up with metastatic breast cancer in other parts of the body years or decades later. That's one reason why the 5 year survival rate stats are a joke.
Our main concern is for our daughter, who some of you may remember was severely injured in an accident while attending Homecoming in 2006. She's finally been able to truly move on independently from us and she gets hit with this. She's living in Durham and looking for a job if anyone is hiring :).
It's going to be real tough on her being an only child. I remember myself in my 20s when my mom was diagnosed with multiple myeloma just after my father died.

Nobody should have to experience half of what you and your family have experienced. I'm extremely sorry to hear you and your family are dealing with another major battle. My best thoughts and strongest prayers are with you and your family!

Hopefully, one of our Durham members will help your daughter find a solid opportunity. I'm not in that part of the U.S. Hiring someone with her determination and willpower is almost always a prudent choice!
11-21-2019, 12:16 AM
diablesseblu

am so glad you are reaching out

My goodness, this is so much to handle. I can vouch via friends who have been in this position re: the world class care at MSK. It's not only first rate in terms of the science, but also in regards to the competence and concern of the staff. Your wife could not be cared for by a better team.

If you are comfortable with sharing more specifics, please expound on your daughter's professional hopes/dreams. There are lots of us here with NC/Duke connections who would love to help.
11-21-2019, 01:29 AM
DukieInKansas

I wish I had words of wisdom to offer you and your wife. I can only add my prayers for all of you - prayers for healing, comfort, strength, and a great medical team.
11-22-2019, 04:34 PM
Devilwin

God bless her and your family. Hopefully the tests were wrong. Prayers sent.
11-23-2019, 08:28 AM
mph

Praying for your wife, you, and your family.
11-29-2019, 04:00 PM
hsheffield

sending good thoughts

Second what others have said about MSK. Fantastic place with cutting edge care.

You may want to ask about them about immunotherapy for recurrent metastatic breast cancer.

They may discuss participating in clinical trials with her. Something to be thinking about.