A couple of other notes from my car search -
I should have looked more closely at the Hyundai Santa Fe Sport. It's a slightly smaller, two-row version of the Santa Fe. I really like the value of the current Hyundai and Kia lineups. The Santa Fe Sport fit into the size/features/price range of the Venza/Murano/RDX trio we looked closely at.
If I was going slightly larger, I would have looked very very hard at the new Toyota Highlander. I sat in it, and was impressed with the comfort and design.